When we are not part of a community, we can feel alone and isolated. Loneliness affects more people that we often realise because it’s hard to admit when we feel lonely. However, it is something we can all experience at any time. Even when our lives are busy and we are surrounded by people.
What Is Loneliness, Really?
Loneliness isn’t just about being alone. You can feel lonely in a crowded room. You can feel lonely in a relationship. You can even feel lonely surrounded by people who care about you.
This is because loneliness is the feeling of being disconnected from others, a caring community, from purpose, or sometimes even from ourselves.
The Impact of Loneliness on Mental Health
Loneliness isn’t just an uncomfortable emotion. It can impact our mental and physical wellbeing over time.
People who feel chronically lonely are more likely to experience:
- Low mood or depression
- Anxiety or racing thoughts
- Poor sleep and low energy
- Reduced self-esteem
- A sense of hopelessness
And when we feel low, it can become even harder to reach out for support from others or in our communities.
You Are Not the Only One
If you’re feeling lonely right now, it might seem like everyone else is fine but research shows that millions of people across all ages and backgrounds experience loneliness regularly. You are not the only one feeling this way — even if it feels like it. Loneliness is a sign that you’re ready to reconnect with people.
What Helps?
There are ways to gently begin reconnecting with yourself and others.
1. Start small: You don’t need to join a big group. Even saying hello to a neighbour or messaging someone you miss can be a first step.
2. Build tiny habits of connection: Try texting a friend every few days. Join a regular class. Visit the same café. Familiarity builds a sense belonging and presence in a community.
3. Look for meaning, not just company: Connection often comes through shared purpose — like volunteering, creative spaces, or support groups.
4. Let others in, slowly: When you feel safe, try sharing how you’re really doing with one person. Authentic conversations build real connection.
5. Be kind to yourself: Loneliness can carry shame. Remind yourself: it’s not your fault, and it doesn’t define your worth. You’re not failing — you’re feeling. And you’re not alone.
A Message for You
If you’re feeling lonely right now, we want you to know:
You matter.
Your feelings are valid.
And connection is still possible — even if it takes time.
Take one step toward community. One small action. One gentle reach. One real conversation. You’re not alone in feeling lonely. And you don’t have to face it alone either.
